Melificent

Archives for July 2017

Thirty Something.

This past weekend I turned thirty___.
At this point in my life, I feel like I actually have learned quite a few things (I often don’t feel any wiser).

  • Speak up, don’t stay quiet.
    • When I was younger (i.e., just a couple of months ago), I was very meek. And quiet. I let things slide. I have realized that in order to get what you want and make your voice heard, you need to use it. This often gets women labeled “a bitch,” but I will gladly take that title if it means I have an opinion, a stance and can defend myself.
  • There is no timeline for anything. Live your life at your pace.
    • I’m not sure if this is the case with other cultures, but I know for the Hispanic culture, we are often pressured to do x by x age. That is sure to be the death of you. Don’t let anyone dictate your journey or what you should be doing while you are on it. You don’t have to do anything. Knowing this has been so liberating. I am no longer part of the flock, which is a perfect seque into the next lesson…
  • BE YOURSELF. Don’t try to conform for anyone.
    • A lot of times we are forced into certain little boxes of how we should act and be. That is nonsense. Be yourself and you will see a difference. I would often hide the true me, but now I embrace it. It has brought me so much positivity and love. I feel more at peace that I am being true to myself and do not feel the need to change for anyone.
  • Do what makes you happy. Put YOU first.
    • This is something that I have known for quite some time, but it made itself known again this year. Do not feel like you are stuck. You have the power to change anything and everything. I just did recently, and I feel like a brand new person. Don’t wait to be happy or just settle. You are better than that. Your soul will thank you.
  • Surround yourself with people that get it.
    • This also may be an obvious one, but it really isn’t. You don’t HAVE to spend time with people you do not like or do not bring something to your life. I don’t have a lot of free time anymore, and I think that prompted me to really think about who I was giving that precious time to. I have surrounded myself with a bunch of amazing people that are supportive, intelligent and make me want to be better. Tightening my social circle has made a world of a difference.

 

And finally, my own personal quote for this year:

“If you listen to people, you won’t live.” – Taraji P. Henson

The Outfits of SDCC 2017

You might as well cue those post con blues because I’m feeling them, geeks.
It’s very hard to put my thoughts and feelings about this con into words. It was very different from others. I sat (nervously) on my first panel, I met incredibly talented people, cosplayed for the first time (in SD) and had a lot of fun. It was my first extensive amount of time away from my daughter (oh, I cried), and helped me gain some confidence with my projects.

Unfortunately, the one thing that went wrong while at con this year (aside from not running into the cast of The Magicians – whomp whomp) is that my extra lithium battery and charger were confiscated without my knowledge when I had to check my bag at the very last minute before boarding to San Diego. This meant I could barely take photos with my Canon while I was there – leaving only my iPhone to do the work. It was a big bummer, but I made the best of it!

I have to say I struggled to put together outfits for this trip. I thought they were all “eh” at best, with juggling a very demanding 9-5, Geek Girl Gang and a toddler. However, I loved the way they all ended up coming together, and wanted to share them all with you!

Day 1;
Tee – Geek Girl Gang
Shorts – Old Navy

****

Nite 1;
Vintage crop – 1138 Clothing
Skirt – Lularoe

[Read more…]

FanMailBox Unboxing: June’s Just For Laughs

Not sure if I have ever mentioned it on this blog, but I am pretty hard to impress when it comes to the comedy front. I tend to start comedies and grow tired of their humor within a season or two. That’s why when I really like a comedy – I reaaaallllly like it. I was so happy to see that a lot of those favorites were included in June’s FanMailBox, Just For Laughs.

The box was also celebrating the company’s 2nd anniversary, so there were a lot of goodies, like sunglasses, a pen, button, pin + tote bag emblazoned with the FanMail logo. Alongside the birthday surprises were a Dunder Mifflin travel mug, Broad City enamel pin, Friends greeting card set, Mean Girls’ Burn Book notebook, Psych “celebration kit,” a Princess Bride inspired candle, and a Pawnee Goddess tee (not pictured because I wore that ish the second I had a chance).

Overall it was such a fun box, and if you get a chance, definitely swing by their booth (4539) at Comic Con this weekend! There will be some great exclusives to snag!

***********************

This is it, geek babes. 
I’ll be on my way to SDCC tomorrow so I hope I’ll get to meet a lot of you in person! Don’t forget I’ll be on a panel on Friday at 1pm with some pretty amazing designers and bloggers talking geek fashion. I’ll be sipping on cocktails, shopping, cosplaying and generally fangirling the EFF OUT for the rest of the weekend. Follow along with the wild rumpus on my Instagram!

What I Wore: Not All Who Wander Are Lost

 

Photo by; One Tiny Dinosaur

It’s always so fun to host Geek Girl Brunch Miami events. It’s become my one mama’s day out a month, so I enjoy it for all it’s worth! This month’s brunch was mine to plan, and being my birthday month, I decided to go with my first real-true-Internetworthy-hardcore fandom: Lord of the Rings. I remember joining Livejournal during the LOTR craze, and fangirling hard. I mean, my birthday cake had Frodo’s face plastered on it for my 21st and I stalked all fanpages possible for the entire cast. I still consider all of them my little babies, and love to see them all doing well. At one point, my screen name was “hobbitluv,” so yeah. It was serious stuff.

I knew I wanted to honor Frodo in a casual cosplay way (guys, it is HOT for a hobbit cloak, ok?) so I went boho. I made sure pieces I chose were flowy and comfy to emulate hobbit garb, and matched the colors of Frodo’s outfit. I paired it with my beloved Sting replica from The Noble Collection, and absolutely love the way it all turned out. I also love that I can use all the pieces again repeatedly because they are so cute, versatile and comfortable!

Boho top; Amazon
Maxi skirt; Amazon
Shoes; c/o Yellowbox {similar}
Accessories; Geek Girl Brunch Miami
Hair crown; DIY by friend
Lipstick; Colourpop’s Solow
Nails; Essie’s School of Hard Rocks

Nerdy Must Haves

  1. Ron Swanson Dress; OK, it is no secret that I adore Ron Swanson. He reminds me of my dad, and is my spirit animal. If you know me personally, you know all our eery similarities. One of them is breakfast food, namely, bacon and eggs, so this dress is absolutely everything. Have I mentioned that my birthday is this month? Just sayin’.
  2. LulaRoe Disney Collection; By now you guys know about my love/hate with LulaRoe. I adore how soft and comfy and perfectly fitting their products are, but I tend to hate their patterns. I think someone once described them as looking like really bad 70’s window treatments or couch upholstery and I could not say otherwise. Eighty five percent of their patterns do. But they just recently came out with their Disney collection and I am so so so hooked. Like, just give me all the Disney stuff and walk away unscathed. I’ve managed to snatch up a pair of leggings and a Cassie skirt already. I’m currently hunting down a Carly, so if you can hook up a sista’, let me know.
  3. Gryffindor Kimono; Yeah, yeah. I know that Black Milk came out with a HP line. I know. I tried to buy a piece but it was already sold out because craziness, amirite? So I look elsewhere for awesome potter threads. I adore kimonos (they are so working girl chic), and Hot Topic now has one for each house, so I mean….need I say more? Oh yeah, I do. They are currently one sale. The end.
  4. My Doctor pin; You wanna touch my fangirl feels? Immediately mention my Doctor! For those that are not familiar with the fandom, it may sound strange, but Doctor Who is such a humanistic and emotional series. They say you never forget your first doctor…but what if I resonated more with my 2nd? I have to say that the 9th was my first, but it was such a cheesy season. It was really hard to soldier through, but a couple of seasons into the 10th, I was sold (even with the killer Christmas trees). These pins are fantastic (no pun intended) and I can’t wait to snag one!